Questions to ask yourself before you adopt

Kathy Gordon, Parent Educator, shares advice on the important questions that parents need to ask themselves before deciding to adopt in order to make sure that adoption is right for them
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Questions to ask yourself before you adopt

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There are some important questions that parents need to ask themselves before they decide to adopt. When I decided to adopt, I had a friend, another mom, who took me aside and grilled me about my intentions and motivations for becoming a mom. I knew that it would be challenging to be a single mom, and I decided that I wanted to be a single mom, than to not be a mom at all. But she really made me examine my reasons. Did I want this child so that I could be a mom or would it be the fact that I would want to be loved in a way that would be better served by a puppy? The first thing that you need to ask yourself is, am I willing to support this child through their own challenges? Can I resolve my own issues from my childhood, so I can stay unconditionally loving, no matter how they are behaving? Am I willing to educate myself as to the resources they might need? Primarily, am I willing to do almost anything to help this child to overcome the challenges of becoming adopted?

Kathy Gordon, Parent Educator, shares advice on the important questions that parents need to ask themselves before deciding to adopt in order to make sure that adoption is right for them

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Kathy Gordon

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Kathy Gordon is the single adoptive mother of a very spirited nine year-old boy, but was not prepared for the challenges of parenting a child whose brain was developed under stress. When her son was three, Kathy had the good fortune of taking parenting classes with Ruth Beaglehole, founding Director of the Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting, (theechocenter.org), and she realized this powerful compassionate method of working with children was something she wanted to teach. She has been a teacher, director and coach most of her adult life. Kathy was certified as a Parent Educator through the Center for Nonviolent Education and Parenting in May of 2008, and will now continue her training by becoming a Certified Hand-in-Hand Parenting Parent Educator. Kathy works with families individually, teaches parenting classes and facilitates trainings for educators and schools communities. Her practice is called Unconditional Connection because we all long for connection, and we long to be unconditionally loved. We live in a society in which we are continually judged by our behavior. Kathy offers research-based information and tools to help people look underneath and beyond the behavior, so that we may be more unconditionally connected thus creating a world of cooperation and peace. 

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