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Jennifer Bliss, PsyD Adoption Expert, offers advice and support for adoptive parents who fear that their child's birth mother may reclaim the child later in life
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In thinking about fears prospective adoptive parents have about open adoption, probably the most common question I get is, “Later down the line, when she gets her life together, won’t she want the baby back?” I think to answer that we have to come back to who this person is that’s making an adoption plan. In order to go through with placing a child for adoption that person has to be extremely selfless and really be concentrated about what’s in the best interest of the child. Because the amount of pain that a woman goes through when she places is enormous. It’s that same woman 10 years later who’s going to make decisions of what’s in the best interest of her child. So she’s not going to want to take the child away from the only parents they’ve ever know – that’s the most devastating thing you can do to a child. When it comes to regret, the only regret a birth mother would usually have would be, “I wish I was at different stage of life when I gave birth.” But given the circumstance that she was in, she’s going to feel confident and proud of the decision she’s made as she sees her child grow up.

Jennifer Bliss, PsyD Adoption Expert, offers advice and support for adoptive parents who fear that their child's birth mother may reclaim the child later in life


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Jennifer Bliss, PsyD

Counseling Director of Independent Adoption Center

Dr. Jennifer Bliss is the National Associate Counseling Director and Southern California Branch Co-Director at the Independent Adoption Center (IAC), the preeminent open adoption agency in the United States. She is also the author of a new book on open adoption, Another Choice: A compassionate Guide to Placing a Child For Adoption.

Dr. Bliss attended the University of Southern California where she received a BA in Psychology and a B.S. in Education. She went on to earn her Masters in Social Welfare from University of California Los Angeles and completed her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology at Ryokan College. Dr. Bliss supervises the Open Adoption Counselors in the Northern and Southern California offices and provides ongoing training and support for IAC counseling staff throughout the county. Additionally, Dr. Bliss was the featured counselor on "Adoption Diaries", WEtv's documentary series on Open Adoption.

Founded in 1982, IAC has been instrumental in pioneering open adoption. It is a counseling-based, licensed, nonprofit agency, and has facilitated over 4,000 adoptions, making it one of the oldest and largest fully open adoption agencies in the country. The agency also prides itself on the fact that it is one of the only adoption agencies in the country that has never had any exclusionary policies for adoptive parents, including age, sexual orientation, marital status, religion, ethnic background, color, or race.

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