Open adoption problems

Jennifer Bliss, PsyD Adoption Expert, shares advice on how to avoid problems and misunderstandings in an open adoption and what the usual relationship is between adoptive parents and the birth mother
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Open adoption problems

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When adoptive parents and birth parents match and enter into an open adoption plan, one of the first things we would do is create a contract. Everybody was similar expectations of what the future contracts will look like. We make decisions about pictures, updates, phone calls, emails, video chats, and visits. We really break it down because it is important that everybody understands what the other party is thinking. We want to avoid as many misunderstandings as possible. At the same time, I do want to say that this is a human relationship that you are building and entering into over the years. To expect that there will be no misunderstandings and no glitches in the relationship, that is unrealistic. At the same time, the relationship is important to you in the same way your in-laws are important to you because they are important to your spouse. Your birth parents are important to your child in the same way.

Jennifer Bliss, PsyD Adoption Expert, shares advice on how to avoid problems and misunderstandings in an open adoption and what the usual relationship is between adoptive parents and the birth mother

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Jennifer Bliss, PsyD

Counseling Director of Independent Adoption Center

Dr. Jennifer Bliss is the National Associate Counseling Director and Southern California Branch Co-Director at the Independent Adoption Center (IAC), the preeminent open adoption agency in the United States. She is also the author of a new book on open adoption, Another Choice: A compassionate Guide to Placing a Child For Adoption.

Dr. Bliss attended the University of Southern California where she received a BA in Psychology and a B.S. in Education. She went on to earn her Masters in Social Welfare from University of California Los Angeles and completed her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology at Ryokan College. Dr. Bliss supervises the Open Adoption Counselors in the Northern and Southern California offices and provides ongoing training and support for IAC counseling staff throughout the county. Additionally, Dr. Bliss was the featured counselor on "Adoption Diaries", WEtv's documentary series on Open Adoption.

Founded in 1982, IAC has been instrumental in pioneering open adoption. It is a counseling-based, licensed, nonprofit agency, and has facilitated over 4,000 adoptions, making it one of the oldest and largest fully open adoption agencies in the country. The agency also prides itself on the fact that it is one of the only adoption agencies in the country that has never had any exclusionary policies for adoptive parents, including age, sexual orientation, marital status, religion, ethnic background, color, or race.

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