Parenting as a sexual abuse survivor

Sex Education Expert Amy Lang, MA, shares advice for parents who were sexually abused as a child on how to make the conversation about sex with your child more comfortable for yourself
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Parenting as a sexual abuse survivor

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If you were sexually abused as a child, it can make conversations about sex and relationships really challenging for you with your child. I would recommend a couple of different things. Be very aware of that, this may be more challenging for you. It doesn't have to be you who talks to your kid, but another trusting adult who shares your values is fine to step in for you. It can also make issue with children, in terms of their sexual behavior, when they become sexually active. As your child gets to the same age you were when you were sexually abused, you may become uncomfortable talking to them. Maybe not. At the end of the day, it is really important for you to take care of you and your sexual health and the part of you that is damaged. If you haven't sought professional help, I would strongly recommend that you do that. www.RAINN.org is a wonderful resource for finding therapy in your area.

Sex Education Expert Amy Lang, MA, shares advice for parents who were sexually abused as a child on how to make the conversation about sex with your child more comfortable for yourself

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Amy Lang, MA

Sex Education Expert

Despite her 16 years of experience as a sexual health educator, Amy Lang found herself completely tongue-tied when her four year old son had "something very important" to tell her about his penis. Shocked by her discomfort, she realized if she was struggling, other parents must be too. Amy also holds an MA in Applied Behavioral Science and her focus was in adult education and group facilitation. She decided to combine her love of sex talking and her love of working with adults and started Birds + Bees + Kids in 2006.

Amy is a three time Mom’s Choice Award winner for her book, Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids - A Guide To Sharing Your Beliefs About Sexuality, Love and Relationships and DVD, Birds + Bees + Kids - The Basics. She is also the author of the book, Say What?! The Birds + Bees for Progressive Parents - What to Say and How to Say It!

She has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Seattle Magazine, Parent Map magazine and has contributed to a gazillion other publications. Sex advice guru Dan Savage says “Amy is a parent’s best friend-with-benefits when it comes to talking to kids about sex.” 

Though Birds + Bees + Kids, Amy helps parents of all beliefs have easy, open and effective conversations about sexuality, love and relationships with their kids. She offers talks, workshops, one-on-one consultations and live webcasts. Amy is also the co-founder of MamaCON - Inspiration and Tools for Modern Moms, a conference supporting the hard work of moms everywhere.

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