Struggles between parents in a divorce

Alan Yellin, PhD Psychologist and Family Therapist, explains the common struggles between parents in a divorce and how they can have adverse effects on the children
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Struggles between parents in a divorce

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There seems to be no struggles that parents can't have post-divorce. Parents report fighting from everything on how to do homework or time to do homework, bedtime, what to eat. If one parent has remarried, how does one integrate the blended family. What parents should do as far as having a relationship with the other parent. There is a number of things that parents argue about rather consistently. To try to mitigate that, we try and tell parents, "You know, it really doesn't quite matter if Johnny goes to bed at 7:30 at your house and 8:00 at mom's house." "It's really not all the important if they do homework at 4:30 at your house and they do it after dinner at the other house." We ask parents to try to be flexible as much as they can so they can accept the different environments that they are being raised in. Children, often, don't get to make the rules about what time things happen or when they get to eat. Parents need to be sensitive to the many binds that children are being placed in.

Alan Yellin, PhD Psychologist and Family Therapist, explains the common struggles between parents in a divorce and how they can have adverse effects on the children

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Alan Yellin, PhD

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Dr. Alan Yellin is a licensed psychologist as well as licensed marriage and family therapist.  He has been in practice for over 30 years working with children, adolescents and adults. Dr. Yellin did his post-doctoral fellowship at Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles. In his practice, he sees children with learning problems, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, fears and social skills issues. Additionally, he has a sub-specialty in working with children from divorced families as well as helping parents deal more effectively with their divorce. Dr. Yellin’s practice also includes working with adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive issues as well as issues around life passages. Dr. Yellin believes that therapy works best when the client and therapist have a collaborative relationship as they explore thoughts and feelings and work towards solutions, and uses a combination of scientific data along with humor to help people achieve change. He is in a long-term happy marriage and has two grown children.

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