Common factors in a good divorce

Alan Yellin, PhD Psychologist, Marriage and Family Therapist, shares advice for parents on the most common factors that lead to a good divorce for both the partners and the children
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Common factors in a good divorce

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Good divorces are possible. In fact in 20% of divorces, there’s less arguing and fighting, and the parents even get along better than they did when they were married. So that would be an example of a divorce that actually could help the parents and help the family. In the other instances we find that the kids who do best come from homes in which mom and dad have made the transition from being co-partners to being co-parents. They come from homes in which the children have regular and continued access to both parents. They come from homes in which children are not put in the middle. They come from homes in which children do not carry any messages. And lastly, they come from homes in which children encourage love and acceptance and forgiveness and therefore encourage a healthy relationship with the other parent. That’s what we’d like to see.

Alan Yellin, PhD Psychologist, Marriage and Family Therapist, shares advice for parents on the most common factors that lead to a good divorce for both the partners and the children

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Alan Yellin, PhD

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Dr. Alan Yellin is a licensed psychologist as well as licensed marriage and family therapist.  He has been in practice for over 30 years working with children, adolescents and adults. Dr. Yellin did his post-doctoral fellowship at Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles. In his practice, he sees children with learning problems, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive disorder, fears and social skills issues. Additionally, he has a sub-specialty in working with children from divorced families as well as helping parents deal more effectively with their divorce. Dr. Yellin’s practice also includes working with adolescents and adults with depression, anxiety, obsessive-compulsive issues as well as issues around life passages. Dr. Yellin believes that therapy works best when the client and therapist have a collaborative relationship as they explore thoughts and feelings and work towards solutions, and uses a combination of scientific data along with humor to help people achieve change. He is in a long-term happy marriage and has two grown children.

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