How co-parenting can work

Actress Alysia Reiner shares how she and her husband share parenting equally and what they do to make it work
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So, I am a very lucky woman because I am in fact a co-parent. I have my husband who's also a tv actor and sometimes he's the primary parent when I'm shooting, and sometimes I'm the primary parent when he's shooting. And, I think the most important thing about co-parenting is communication and really both acknowledging that there is not one boss. I am not the head of the household, we are equal heads of household. We both bring in money and we both share in the parenting responsibilities. And, that means that I don't get to be the boss. Having said that, when Liv was little, one thing that was really helpful for us was I was the food boss and he was the sleep boss. So that's a way that we broke it up. So, anything about sleep, we would talk about, we would discuss, we would communicate about; but in the end, if it had to be a decision he would win. If it was about food, because at that time I was the primary food, we would talk, we would decide, but in the end, I got final say. And that's, that really worked with us. It empowered each of us to have a place where we, we were the boss; but we shared all decisions.

Actress Alysia Reiner shares how she and her husband share parenting equally and what they do to make it work

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Alysia Reiner

Mother & Actress

Alysia is an award winning actress, producer, mother, humanitarian, and outspoken environmentalist. As an actress her work is prolific, she’s appeared on screen and stage, has won awards and rave reviews, and has even been suggested on IMDB as one of top 3 picks for the next “Bond Girl.” She is still often recognized as Christine, Thomas Hayden Church’s fiancee and then bride in the Oscar-winning cult film favorite “Sideways,” for which she won a Screen Actors Guild Award for Outstanding Performance for an Ensemble Cast.

She is currently shooting her second season of ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK, playing FIG, the assistant warden in the new series by Jenji Kohan who created WEEDS,  and she just wrapped the film LIFE ITSELF with Morgan Freeman and Diane Keaton. Reiner has roles in a slew of  upcoming films including Martin Scorsese’s REVENGE OF THE GREEN DRAGONS, THE GIRL IN THE BOOK, and KELLY AND CAL, playing opposite Juliette Lewis. She also stars in THAT AKWARD MOMENT with Zac Efron in theatres now.

Alysia’s other film credits include the period thriller “Primrose Lane,” ”Backwards” with James Van Der Beek, “Not For Nothing,” “Schooled,” “Arranged,” “Kissing Jessica Stein,” “One Last Thing,” “The A List,”  “For Love of the Game” with Kevin Costner, “Row Your Boat” with Jon Bon Jovi, “The Narrow Gate,” “Little Pieces,” “Hourly Rates,” “3 Body Problem,” “The Stand In,” and Lee Toland Krieger’s “The Vicious Kind,” nominated for two independent Spirit Awards.

While currently shooting the role of Natalie “Fig” Figueroa on “Orange Is The New Black”, Alysia’s many other TV recurring and guest star roles include “Blue Bloods,” “The Sopranos,” “30 Rock,” “Law & Order” (multiple episodes on regular, CI & SVU), “White Collar,” “Love Monkey,” “The Drew Carey Show,” “The Practice,” “The Exes,” “The Starter Wife,” “The Jury,” “Family Law,” “Jack & Jill,” and series lead in the pilot “An Englishman in New York.” 

Alysia has appeared on stages around the country; from the Sundance Filmmakers Lab in Utah to the famed Apollo Theatre in Harlem NYC. She’s graced stages around the world too, from The Edinburgh Festival in Scotland to The Royal Court Theatre in London. Among her many theatrical roles, she starred in the New York Premiere of “Pentecost” by Tony-winning playwright David Edgar, and starred in the provocative two character play “An Oak Tree” with Tim Crouch which won a Special Obie Award. Her portrayal of June Miller in “Anais Nin: One Of Her Lives” was critically acclaimed, as was her turn in “Wasps In Bed” at The Beckett Theater, of which the New York Times wrote “Alysia Reiner is priceless.”  She originated the title role of Tina Modotti in “Modotti,” and other New York theater includes “A Charity Case,” “Hillary: A Modern Greek Tragedy With A Somewhat Happy Ending” at The Public Theater, “Jayson With a Y,” “Manhattan Cassanova” with Mercedes Ruehl, and “Love in the Age of Narcissism” and “Dating Games,” both with her husband, actor David Alan Basche.

“Speed Grieving,” the award winning short film that Alysia created, produced and stars in, had it’s world premiere at The Hamptons International Film Festival, has screened at over a dozen more film festivals, and is now used as a grief counseling tool in every Cancer Support Community center in the country.

She is a contributor to the Huffington Post and Maria Shriver’s Website, and has been featured on CNN, People.com, Celebrity Baby Scoop, Stroller Traffic, Healthy Child Healthy World, Family Focus Blog, Today I ate a Rainbow, Your Green Baby, and others. She is also a celebrity green momma spokesperson for Best For Babes, an organization that works to change how we view and support breast feeding, and gives moms the solutions they need to make it work.

Alysia is a champion of all things eco-friendly, and she and her husband used their own home as a way to share information about building green. Their brownstone renovation in Harlem was featured on television’s “World’s Greenest Homes,”  ”HOME & FAMILY“ and “Renovation Nation;” in various magazines like Dwell, Gotham, and The Nest; and they allowed the environmentally friendly construction process to be chronicled on Web sites such as Dwell.com and Kohler.com.

She was recently recognized as an INTELLIGENT OPTIMIST in Ode Magazine and profiled by New York Women in Film and Television as a woman to watch.

Alysia is on the board of The Broad Collective, and is involved with many charities including The Cancer Support Community, Women’s Prison Association, Actors For Autism, The Young Women’s Leadership Network, Amnesty International, Our Time Theatre Company,  Whitehead Institute of Biomedical Research, Joyful Heart Foundation, GEMS, and Circle of Health International.

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