Having a baby after the loss of a child

Heather Spohr, Mom & Blogger, shares advice from experience after losing a child of her own, on how to overcome the challenges of having a baby after losing a child
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Having a baby after the loss of a child

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So having a child after another child has passed away, it is obviously a very emotional experience. I think though that in some ways it´s not unlike bringing a second child into a family. You have that feeling of how am I ever going to love this child the way I loved my first child. I mean I don´t think that´s any different. I certainly felt that way. But I think that you have this guilt that because your first child is not there, you are pouring everything into your second child and you feel like you are dishonoring your deceased child´s memory. And it is definitely not that at all. I mean it´s a natural emotion that I think every parent who has lost a child goes through. But just knowing that by loving your second child, you do not stop loving your first child and I think that´s kind of a universal thing that any parent can relate to is figuring out how to love more children. And we all know intellectually that of course you love all of your children the same but until that happens you have that fear. But then you add on the added fear of if I love this child, are people going to think that I don´t love my other child? And that is obviously not the case, so you have this guilt about not having your other child there, which you know isn´t something to feel guilty about but it is just the constant struggle of trying to parent two children even if you are only parenting one in person, you are parenting the other one´s memory.

Heather Spohr, Mom & Blogger, shares advice from experience after losing a child of her own, on how to overcome the challenges of having a baby after losing a child

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Heather Spohr

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Heather Spohr is a writer and philanthropist who blogs at the award-winning blog, "The Spohrs Are Multiplying". She is a top fundraiser for the March of Dimes and the President and Co-Founder of “Friends Of Maddie,” a charitable organization that supports the families of critically ill babies in Neonatal Intensive Care Units. She has spoken at numerous conferences, on CNN, and before members of Congress.

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