When offers of help are not accepted

Kim Hamer, Widow & Founder of "Exactly What They Need", shares advice on what to do when your offers of help to a person in crisis are not accepted
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When offers of help are not accepted

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Often times, it's very hard for people that you care about to accept help. There's a couple of things to think about. One, when a person is in crisis, a lot of times people expect them to take on project management as well. They expect the person in crisis to be able to say, "I need you to do this. I need you to do that, and I need you to do that." The person in crisis cannot do that. Make sure that your help is very specific. Two, the person in crisis may not even know what it is they need. Give them a chance to figure it out. Three, the person in crisis may not even know who to turn to for what they need once they figure it out. You can help them with that. You can either be that person, or you can find people who can fill those needs for them. The key to this is, make sure the person who is in crisis to be project manager for them getting help.

Kim Hamer, Widow & Founder of "Exactly What They Need", shares advice on what to do when your offers of help to a person in crisis are not accepted

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100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend's Guide to Loving A Friend Through Cancer or Loss

Kim Hamer is the author of 100 Acts of Love: A Girlfriend's Guide to Loving Your Friend through Cancer or Loss, a modern, essential how-to guide offering tips on what to say (and NOT to say), and specific ways to support and love a friend, co-worker or family member who is coping with cancer, loss or any crisis.

Kim Hamer became a widow after her 44-year old husband lost his life to cancer. Their children were 12, 9 and 7 at the time. Before and after her husband’s death, friends and supporters came up with unique, creative and simple ways to help her family. She called them “acts of love” because it’s what they felt like.

Her book is a fun, straightforward compilation of many of those acts. The mission of “100 Acts of Love” is to help everyone understand and embrace their importance in the lives of their friend in crisis and to provide the tools and courage needed to support them in a truly meaningful and helpful way.

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