Encouragement versus pressure

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Encouragement versus pressure

The key assumption I think a lot of us don't realize is that all humans assuming there's no brain damage, excel at something. This born out of statistical theory about probabilities. We all have things that you have to travel far and wide to find someone better than us to thing. And one of my jobs as a parent is to try to find out what those things are in my kid. Just like plants grow, their branches around obstacles toward the light, kids grow their behaviors toward their competencies. As long as they are not plugged in to sedentary electronic pleasure and sedated by that or sedated throughout other kinds of unhealthy behaviors. They are going to naturally do those things that draw them towards their competencies. It may take up to the kids age 18 to find one or two. But once they find them, they don't need me to put my 2 hands on their back. They want to run towards them. In certain moment and they may struggle and need my help to do things when they don't feel like it but those are the brief flips, not the longer moments. They mostly love them.

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David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP

Psychologist & Author

Dr. David Palmiter is a professor of Psychology and Counseling at Marywood University, the President of the Pennsylvania Psychological Association (2012-2013), a practicing and board-certified clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience, a Public Education Coordinator for the American Psychological Association, author of an award winning parenting book (times three), dad (of 3.0 children; 3.5 if you count the neurotic dog) and husband (of over 22 years to Dr. Lia Richards-Palmiter, who says she has 4.0 children as she counts David). Dr. Palmiter has over three dozen professional publications to his credit, has given over 200 continuing education workshops around the country and has completed over 300 public education projects, including for outlets such as the LA Times, US News and World Report, USA Today, Wall St. Journal and O Magazine. A central aspect of his professional mission is to put air under the wings of parents as they try to raise happy and self-actualized children. 

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