Disagreeing on discipline with your partner

David Palmitter, PhD, ABPP Psychologist and Author, shares advice for parents on how to resolve issuers when disagreeing on how to discipline your child, as well as how to have a united parenting front with your partner
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Disagreeing on discipline with your partner

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I think parents - we need to agree on 3 premises when it comes to partnering with our kids. First, parenting from the cross, sucks. We have to take care of our relationship that has to be a priority, that's number one. Number two is we have to be a united front, even when we disagree we keep that between ourselves as much as we can. Third, we have to ask ourselves what is our goal? The root of the word discipline isn't to kick butt, it's to help, it's to educate. So, I think a key goal is helping a kid to develop a capacity to do things when they don't feel like it. That's a foundation of goal. Around that we build other ones, we can agree on that. I work a lot with parents who come in and they're hostile with each other about this issue and I find it very easy to get them on the same page because their goals are the same. Start with the goals and then what methods most efficiently and effectively will help us to reach those shared goals. It's a great way to get rid of the contention, especially if we're investing on our relationship every week.

David Palmitter, PhD, ABPP Psychologist and Author, shares advice for parents on how to resolve issuers when disagreeing on how to discipline your child, as well as how to have a united parenting front with your partner

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David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP

Psychologist & Author

Dr. David Palmiter is a professor of Psychology and Counseling at Marywood University, the President of the Pennsylvania Psychological Association (2012-2013), a practicing and board-certified clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience, a Public Education Coordinator for the American Psychological Association, author of an award winning parenting book (times three), dad (of 3.0 children; 3.5 if you count the neurotic dog) and husband (of over 22 years to Dr. Lia Richards-Palmiter, who says she has 4.0 children as she counts David). Dr. Palmiter has over three dozen professional publications to his credit, has given over 200 continuing education workshops around the country and has completed over 300 public education projects, including for outlets such as the LA Times, US News and World Report, USA Today, Wall St. Journal and O Magazine. A central aspect of his professional mission is to put air under the wings of parents as they try to raise happy and self-actualized children. 

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