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The Benefits of Using Mediation For Estate Planning

Estate planning is the complicated process involving the older generation passing on its wealth to the younger generation. Unfortunately it can be the source of many disagreements, and even court litigation. With all good intentions, many parents create an estate plan so their loved ones won’t have to deal with lengthy probate court proceedings. However, parents often talk to attorneys only, and don’t involve their heirs in the discussion, assuming they will embrace the estate gifts they receive. This can lead to families disputing the estate plan after the death of a parent, family members suing one another in court, and even suing the parents’ attorneys for malpractice.

The biggest problem in estate planning is the lack of communication among family members. Many parents don’t feel comfortable talking about their own death, and what will happen to their property once they pass away. If day-to-day communications are a challenge for a family, then conversations about estate planning can be very difficult and painful to handle. Most heirs have no idea how the estate will be divided until the parent is gone and by then, they may have a lot of bad feelings bottled up inside.

This is where mediation comes in: it helps family members have an important decision while everybody is alive. Mediation is used to make plans in the present to avoid future problems. However an experienced mediator will not make any decisions for the family. Instead he/she will identify specific areas of conflict, help parents and their children find a way to resolve them, and encourage them to create a plan that makes sense for the whole family. Using mediation for estate planning purposes gives everyone in the room a fair and equal role when making decisions. Mediation encourages all parties to speak up, explain their side and be heard. Once this happens, parents are able to decide what will be best for each family member and the whole family can reach a consensus and draft a realistic and fair estate plan together. This mediation process can be very gratifying, and even help families discuss old resentments and heal old wounds. Communication among family members may even improve in the long run.

Used as a preventative tool and an addition (not a replacement) to using an attorney, mediation can be helpful for all aspects of estate planning, including wills and trusts, child guardianship, healthcare directives, family business succession, real estate planning, and probate avoidance. In the long run, estate planning mediation helps families maintain healthy relationships, improve communication, and avoid court battles and the high cost of court litigation.

To learn more about the mediation process, complete our request for a free online evaluation, and to receive a free 30-minute phone consultation, visit us at, or call 619-702-9174.

Principal Mediator

A Fair Way Mediation Center offers a relaxed, compassionate atmosphere in an informal setting that encourages a calm and objective approach.  This is a safe space that avoids the stress and embarrassment that courtroom procedures can inject into any divorce or separation.  All couples are welcome, whether traditional or same sex families. An experienced Mediator, Mr.  Gordon has worked in all facets of alternate dispute resolution (ADR), with both individuals and organisations.  He brings a friendly approach that is conducive to cooperation.