Four choices that can end power struggles

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Four choices that can end power struggles

All people, adults and children, need power. We want power and we need power. Giving children choices is one way to give them some power and control. There are four types of choices. Concrete choices: Do you want the red cup or the blue cup? Playful choices: Do you want to hop like a bunny to the bathroom or fly like an airplane to the bathtub? Choices with incentives: If you brush your teeth quickly, we will have time for two books tonight. And choices with a consequence: You can either get in the carseat yourself or I am going to help you. Those four types of choices start off with the most basic kind and then they kind of gradually escalate to the more forceful kind. Giving your children power and choice can disseminate many, many, many, many power struggles.

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Kim has been an educator for more than 20 years.  She has worked as an elementary school teacher in the independent school sector as well as an Assistant Director of Admissions. She had the pleasure of working with and teaching teachers, assistants, students, and parents. Kim is most proud of being a wife and mother of “tween” boy/girl twins. Being an effective parent is Kim’s passion in life. She says, “every day I try to be mindful of each decision I make in regards to parenting with the end in mind”. Besides Kim’s experiential background, she holds her bachelor’s degree, her Multiple Subject Teaching Credential, a master’s degree in Education, and is a Certified Parent Educator in multiple programs. Kim is the Co-Founder of Empowered Parenting, which offers courses, workshops, and one-on-one coaching to parents, teachers, grandparents, healthcare workers, counselors, corporate America, and anyone who relates to children. Kim’s knowledge and experience coupled with her enthusiasm, humor, empathy and compassion, has helped thousands of people worldwide with their daily interactions with children. Kim’s goal is to help reduce conflict, foster mutual respect, and create deeper communication and connections between loved ones.

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