The balance between managing kids and relating to them

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The balance between managing kids and relating to them

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One of the things you need to do in setting up the ground work for getting children to learn to do things that they don't want to do is make sure that you have a good relationship with them. I break up parenting into two parts; there's managing children, like make sure you eat the broccoli, make sure you clean your room, and then there is relating to them. I make sure that parents will relate to their children because, actually, children will want to do more for that parent because they have a good relationship. If you spend too much time managing, guess what? They get defensive, they get hostile, they get resentful. If you spend all your time relating, there is no structure and your kids will walk all over you. Make sure to have a balance between managing and relating.

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Chris Fulton, PhD

Clinical Psychologist

Dr. Christopher Fulton is a licensed clinical psychologist and has been in private practice for over ten years. He received his doctorate in 1994 from the California School of Professional Psychology, Los Angeles. Dr. Fulton has clinical training and experience in a variety of settings, and also has administrative, teaching, supervision, consulting, research and psychological testing experience. Dr. Fulton provides consultation and ongoing therapy for children, adolescents and adults. He conducts group, individual, couples and family therapy and actively works with a variety of childhood disorders, including: adjustment disorder, ADHD, anxiety, depression, oppositional defiant and other emotional-behavioral disorders. Among his most frequent areas of concentration is divorce, for which Dr. Fulton offers therapy for all involved.

Utilizing research-supported methods in treatment, Dr. Fulton's approach to therapy involves a combination of cognitive-behavioral, family systems and interpersonal interventions. In his work with children, Dr. Fulton involves parents and assists them in developing appropriate responses to their children, since he believes that ultimately the parent will make the most significant impact on the child. Dr. Fulton helps parents establish appropriate boundaries, communication and methods of discipline in order to increase positive relationships with their children.

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