Explaining sexual desire

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Sexual desire is really important for kids to understand, because it makes sex make sense to them. So when you're talking to your young kids about how babies are made and also talking to them about the fact that people have sex for fun, 99.9% of the time, you need to talk about sexual desire. Tell them that what happens as their body grows from a kid body into an adult body, they'll start to have sexual feelings. They'll have feelings where they're more interested in the opposite sex or interested in having romance or dating. They find people physically attractive. It can feel like a pull are a tug. It's a very normal feeling to have – it feels really good. And when they're aware of that, they understand that it's normal to have sexual feelings and they need to learn how to manage those sexual feelings. So talking to them sooner rather than later helps them to understand why people want to have sex – their body tells them it feels good to engage in sexual activities, but not until they're much older.

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Amy Lang, MA

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Despite her 16 years of experience as a sexual health educator, Amy Lang found herself completely tongue-tied when her four year old son had "something very important" to tell her about his penis. Shocked by her discomfort, she realized if she was struggling, other parents must be too. Amy also holds an MA in Applied Behavioral Science and her focus was in adult education and group facilitation. She decided to combine her love of sex talking and her love of working with adults and started Birds + Bees + Kids in 2006.

Amy is a three time Mom’s Choice Award winner for her book, Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids - A Guide To Sharing Your Beliefs About Sexuality, Love and Relationships and DVD, Birds + Bees + Kids - The Basics. She is also the author of the book, Say What?! The Birds + Bees for Progressive Parents - What to Say and How to Say It!

She has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Seattle Magazine, Parent Map magazine and has contributed to a gazillion other publications. Sex advice guru Dan Savage says “Amy is a parent’s best friend-with-benefits when it comes to talking to kids about sex.” 

Though Birds + Bees + Kids, Amy helps parents of all beliefs have easy, open and effective conversations about sexuality, love and relationships with their kids. She offers talks, workshops, one-on-one consultations and live webcasts. Amy is also the co-founder of MamaCON - Inspiration and Tools for Modern Moms, a conference supporting the hard work of moms everywhere.

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