Recognizing the male experience of grief

Grief and Loss Specialist Claire Chew Gillenson, MA, explains how the male experience of grief is different in men and how to recognize when men are grieving
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Recognizing the male experience of grief

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Often times, when we go through a traumatic loss, such as, miscarriage, men and women react differently. Often times women want to really emote and share their feelings; whereas, men are often seen as silent or having nothing to say. One can misread that as to the men not caring, but that isn't the case. Society has these, sort of, norms that says that men have to be strong, big boys don't cry, don't be weak, keep a stiff upper lip. Men go through some of these pressures imposed upon them, so it's natural for them -- they are going through a traumatic loss, as well -- to act differently. Sometimes, they might react by being silent. Inside they might be hurting, but they don't know what to say. So what I would suggest is, A, if you can accept and love the way that your partner is grieving. See that his silence is a way of grieving. Then it becomes a way to open up that dialog between the two of you and give you room to find those words. Perhaps you can give him some coaching, some words to help him share and connect with you. Maybe that will take that silence from the room.
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Grief and Loss Specialist Claire Chew Gillenson, MA, explains how the male experience of grief is different in men and how to recognize when men are grieving

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Claire Chew, MA

Grief & Loss Specialist

Claire Chew is a Life Transformation/Grief Coach based in Los Angeles, serving clients locally in Southern California and globally via Skype. Her work has been featured in Marie Claire, InStyle, Martha Stewart's Living, Body + Soul, and on Good Morning America. Claire brings an integrative approach to her life coaching, melding Eastern and Western philosophies with a focus on the whole of our being: physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Her proven methods help empower individuals to create their own joy and happiness while moving through life transitions. Claire specializes in grief that is not part of mainstream conversations: pet loss, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, suicide and recovery. A published author, speaker and educator, she is the founder of Luxepets.


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