Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMs) with your child

Learn about: Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMs) with your child from Kim DeMarchi, MEd, CPE,...
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Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMs) with your child

Dorothy Higgs, author of Your Child´s Self Esteem, talks about GEMs. GEMs are genuine encounter moments. Basically it is 100% focused attention on your child. A GEM can occur any time, any place. It is typically a time where your child comes to you and wants to tell you something. They are seeking your attention. Maybe they come to you and say look at this beautiful caterpillar mommy. And you are really busy and you do want to give them the attention because you are busy. But if you do, take their lead. Stop what you are doing. Just say wow, tell me about that caterpillar. In less than 30 seconds, the time you could have been spending pushing them aside, you can make your child feel loved and understood and valued. Look at them in the eye. Touch them gently. And just take their lead. A genuine encounter moment is from the heart, not the head. It is not a lesson about caterpillars. It is not a phonics lesson that caterpillar begins with a C. It strictly is from the heart. It is that time where you and your child are totally connected.

Learn about: Genuine Encounter Moments (GEMs) with your child from Kim DeMarchi, MEd, CPE,...


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Kim has been an educator for more than 20 years.  She has worked as an elementary school teacher in the independent school sector as well as an Assistant Director of Admissions. She had the pleasure of working with and teaching teachers, assistants, students, and parents. Kim is most proud of being a wife and mother of “tween” boy/girl twins. Being an effective parent is Kim’s passion in life. She says, “every day I try to be mindful of each decision I make in regards to parenting with the end in mind”. Besides Kim’s experiential background, she holds her bachelor’s degree, her Multiple Subject Teaching Credential, a master’s degree in Education, and is a Certified Parent Educator in multiple programs. Kim is the Co-Founder of Empowered Parenting, which offers courses, workshops, and one-on-one coaching to parents, teachers, grandparents, healthcare workers, counselors, corporate America, and anyone who relates to children. Kim’s knowledge and experience coupled with her enthusiasm, humor, empathy and compassion, has helped thousands of people worldwide with their daily interactions with children. Kim’s goal is to help reduce conflict, foster mutual respect, and create deeper communication and connections between loved ones.

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