Children feeling isolated when they are bullied

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The client calls I get from parents who have children that are the victims of bullying are some of the hardest. They’re painful. It is one of the most painful experiences listening to the grief that a parent is feeling when they know their child is being bullied and feel powerless to do anything about it. Almost every parent I’ve ever talked to, I think I’d say every parent I’ve ever talked to, feels very strongly about wanting to reach out to their child and trying to get through and finding what they can do to fix it. I remember one dad that I spoke to months ago being so adamant about wanting to fix what was wrong. I remember him shaking his daughter and saying, I want to fix what’s wrong for you. I wish I could just snap my fingers and make this all better for you. And he said to me, no matter how hard I try to reach her, no matter how much I tried to get through to her, it was just like talking to a wall. She would never come out and say what was really bothering her. And that client’s story is similar to probably 1K other calls I’ve gotten just like it. Every parent has experienced it. They all feel like there’s something eating at their child that they can’t get at, they can’t fix. And parents send their children to psychologists and therapists and guidance counselors to find out what the problem is. It’s always one thing. It’s always one particular thing. And nothing can make it better. It is a feeling of isolation and a feeling of not belonging. It’s a feeling of not being a part of the attractive society, or the attractive part of the crowd at school to be in. And by attractive, I don’t mean physically attractive. I mean being privileged. Being from the right part of town. Having the right kind of house. Having the right kind of clothes. Having the right kind of hair. Having the right color eyes. Belonging. That’s what it almost always is. And it’s a very difficult problem for school administrators to fix. These are officials who come to work each day. They see 100s of children. To them it’s a job. They go home. They have their own families. They have their own problems to worry about. A child suffering in that respect is very unique. And it’s so difficult for parents to become aware of it and feel so powerless and feel like there’s nothing they can do to stop it.

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Rabeh M. A. Soofi

Attorney & Professor of Law

Rabeh M. A. Soofi is a managing attorney of a Los Angeles, California-based law firm.  Rabeh spent most of her career at a large national law firm of 300+ attorneys representing Fortune 500 companies, multi-national corporations, government agencies, and other high-profile clients in multi-million and billion dollar disputes.  Rabeh has a broad practice which spans multiple practice areas, serving diverse clients including individuals, families, children  and numerous others.  Rabeh is recognized as one of the “Top Women Lawyers” in Southern California by SuperLawyers and Los Angeles Magazine, as well as being honored multiple times as a “Top Attorney – Rising Star” by SuperLawyers, awarded to only 2.5% of attorneys under 40.  Rabeh is rated as a “Superb” lawyer by, and ranked 10 / 10 for her experience, industry recognition, and professional conduct.  Rabeh has been recognized as a “Future Star” by Euromoney’s Definitive Guide to America’s Leading Firms and Attorneys.Rabeh has provided legal commentary and interviews on a variety of legal matters and has been featured in the Los Angeles Times, Public Radio International, Yahoo! Channel Seven, Orange County’s KM 640 AM, Random House, ALM /, Digital Journal, RFI – Radio France Internationale, Times Dispatch, Malaysia Star Online, National Law Review, Georgetown University Law Center, Lexis-Nexis, American Bar Association, Los Angeles Daily Journal, Iowa Gazette, and others media outlets.Rabeh received her Juris Doctorate from the University of Notre Dame, and two undergraduate degrees in Political Science and History from the University of Michigan. She received legal training in the City of Chicago’s Corporate Counsel’s office, and is an Adjunct Professor of Law at California Law School.Rabeh has provided over 700+ hours of pro bono service to individuals, families, and children of modest means, and has s volunteered substantial time and provided financial assistance to support a variety of charitable organizations, holding leadership positions in several, including  the Boys and Girls Club, Children’s Law Center / Kid’s Voice, Homeless Shelter Legal Aid Project, Mid East West Foundation, List Project, IMANI Aid Foundation, Mid East West Foundation, Heartland Pro Bono Council, Habitat for Humanity, Wounded Warrior, and others.

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