Tips for parent-teacher conferences

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Collaborations with teachers are key parenting task. I want to think of it like my co-parent. I never want to disagree with that other person in front of my child. If I do - if that's the top 10 song in my family complaining about the teacher, I can explain to hear that all the time from my kid. I want to collaborate with the teacher. I want to go to every parent-teacher conference that is offered to me even if my kids are doing well to show respect to their efforts. I want to be a few minutes early. I want to take notes. I want to listen raptly to everything teacher has to say. I want to affirm what I agree with. I want to affirm the teacher's effort proportionate and specifically like I praise my kid and I want to give empathy for the teacher's effort. If I haven't heard about my kid's strengths, I want to ask about them - hat do you see my kid's strengths be? If there's any problems, I want to get the teacher's perspective on it. I don't feel there a need to share any problems at home - that's not really the task of the teacher to hear that. But I want to collaborate with them. I want a solution to any problems maybe. I want to follow up with a thank you note and maybe an email especially if there's a plan that articulates what we're going to do. If that doesn't work right away then I want to involve other people like a child psychologist. Lastly, I want to talk about homework. How much time my kid's homework is taking. There's a good rule, the 10 minute guideline. A 6th grader, the research suggests that they work more than 60 minutes. 6th grade times 10 minutes. That they are getting the diminishing return on academic learning. Now, there maybe reasons why a 7th grader is spending more than 70 minutes but I want to at least engage the teacher in a dialog. I find a lot of teachers are surprised by how much homework is taking. And sometimes they want to cut it back when they get the information.

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David Palmiter, PhD, ABPP

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Dr. David Palmiter is a professor of Psychology and Counseling at Marywood University, the President of the Pennsylvania Psychological Association (2012-2013), a practicing and board-certified clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience, a Public Education Coordinator for the American Psychological Association, author of an award winning parenting book (times three), dad (of 3.0 children; 3.5 if you count the neurotic dog) and husband (of over 22 years to Dr. Lia Richards-Palmiter, who says she has 4.0 children as she counts David). Dr. Palmiter has over three dozen professional publications to his credit, has given over 200 continuing education workshops around the country and has completed over 300 public education projects, including for outlets such as the LA Times, US News and World Report, USA Today, Wall St. Journal and O Magazine. A central aspect of his professional mission is to put air under the wings of parents as they try to raise happy and self-actualized children. 

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