How to encourage children to express their feelings

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How to encourage children to express their feelings

Many adults as children were not allowed to express their feelings. We were told don't cry, I will give you something to cry about. Now today we want to invite our children to express their feelings. We want to have a communicative relationship with our children. Feeling stoppers are tools that parents sometimes use that put a stop to their children sharing their feelings. Feelings are simply feelings, they are not good, they are not bad, they just are. When a child comes to us and we use tactics such as scolding, reprimanding, ignoring, sarcasm, teasing, punishing, any of those things, it immediately stops that child from wanting to come to you next time and wanting to share feelings. A feeling encourager on the other hand, invites expression from our children; listening, looking at them, eye contact, empathizing with them, validating their feelings. All of those things invite expression from your children and that's what we want because when our children are teenagers and older, we want to have that kind of open dialogue with our children.

Learn about: How to encourage children to express their feelings from Kim DeMarchi, MEd, CPE,...


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Kim DeMarchi, MEd, CPE

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Kim has been an educator for more than 20 years.  She has worked as an elementary school teacher in the independent school sector as well as an Assistant Director of Admissions. She had the pleasure of working with and teaching teachers, assistants, students, and parents. Kim is most proud of being a wife and mother of “tween” boy/girl twins. Being an effective parent is Kim’s passion in life. She says, “every day I try to be mindful of each decision I make in regards to parenting with the end in mind”. Besides Kim’s experiential background, she holds her bachelor’s degree, her Multiple Subject Teaching Credential, a master’s degree in Education, and is a Certified Parent Educator in multiple programs. Kim is the Co-Founder of Empowered Parenting, which offers courses, workshops, and one-on-one coaching to parents, teachers, grandparents, healthcare workers, counselors, corporate America, and anyone who relates to children. Kim’s knowledge and experience coupled with her enthusiasm, humor, empathy and compassion, has helped thousands of people worldwide with their daily interactions with children. Kim’s goal is to help reduce conflict, foster mutual respect, and create deeper communication and connections between loved ones.

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