Yeah, if you’re the parent of a teenager, no doubt you have been met with frustration about trying to teach your teen to be responsible. He won’t do this. She won’t do this. I’ve got to ask her a 100 times. Or I’ve got to tell them 100 times. And understandably that can be frustrating.
But good news. There are some things that you can do.
So to teach your teen responsibility 1) expect it and 2) clearly communicate about responsibility and what you expect from them and then 3) not nag but make your request once.
Hypothetical example. A lot of parents would be like, my kid needs to be up for school by 7 a.m. And I’ve got to go in his room like 50 times to tell the boy to get his butt out of bed. And he doesn’t.
Well part of the reason he doesn’t perhaps is you have unintentionally trained him you don’t have to get up until I come into your room the 50th time. So those first 49 don’t count. There’s no need for responsibility on your part.
So as a parent, you need to make your requests once. I need you to get out of bed once. I need you to pitch in and help the family by doing dishes. This and that. And then if they do it, great job. Note and encourage that. If they don’t there needs to be some sort of consequence, either some sort of consequence that you as a parent lay down, or some sort of natural consequence that just so happens by not getting out of bed at the appropriate time.
So as a parent, you’ve got to clearly communicate what you expect. This teaches responsibility. And then you must inspect what you expect.