Good decision making for teens

Stephen Wallace, MS Ed Adolescent Psychologist, shares advice for parents on the best method for teaching your teen how to make good decisions and the difference between good and bad decision making
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Good decision making for teens

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Stephen Wallace: It’s really important that the adults in young people’s lives talk to them about decision making. All kinds of decision making. Good decision making and bad decision making. Sometimes we focus too much on the latter than with the former, but it’s really important that young people will hear from the important adult in their lives when they’re making good choices. The choices we want them to make. Usually, the choices they themselves want to make. They need that reinforcement. Not necessarily reward but reinforcement that they’re on the right path. Secondly, of course it’s important that we talk to them about the choices we don’t want them to make. Things like underage drinking, other drug use, bullying, violence, suicide, all of those things we want to prevent. And the power of the conversation is incredible. All the research shows, over and over again that having open, honest dialogue with young people, early and often is the most effective tool at our disposal. In my research I found 4 decision factors that really drive teen decision making. First one is Personal Goals. What goals does the child have for themselves? The second is Potential Outcomes. What might certain choices do to those personal goals in terms of achieving them? The third is Mental States. What about stress or anxiety or boredom or depression? How do those mental states drive certain decisions? And finally, Significant People. What are the adults in the young person’s life want them to do? What decisions do they want them to make?

Stephen Wallace, MS Ed Adolescent Psychologist, shares advice for parents on the best method for teaching your teen how to make good decisions and the difference between good and bad decision making

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Stephen Gray Wallace, MS Ed

School Psychologist & Author

Stephen Gray Wallace, director of the Center for Adolescent Research and Education (CARE), has broad experience as a school psychologist and adolescent and family counselor. He is also the senior advisor for policy, research, and education at SADD (Students Against Destructive Decisions), an organization he served as national chairman and chief executive officer for more than fifteen years. 

Stephen serves the Cape Cod Sea Camps as a resident camp director and the director of counseling and counselor training and the American Camp Association as a feature magazine writer, media spokesperson and faculty member at its e-Institute for Professional Development, a role he also plays for the American Academy of Family Physicians.

The White House, the American Camp Association, SADD, Camping Magazine, and the Susquehanna University Alumni Association have formally honored Stephen for being a tireless and passionate advocate for youth.

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