Friends with benefits

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Friends with benefits is when a couple, a pair of friends agree to have sex just for fun. And lots of teens are engaging in this kind of friendship. And the idea is that they can hook up and have sex or engage in sexual activity without having the commitment of a relationship. So it is really just for fun so they can have sex safely with someone they know and are comfortable with. It appears to be really popular because it gets kids out of the ordeal of having a relationship in order to have sex. And both boys and girls engage in this kind of behavior. It is important to talk to your kids about what this is, what this means and what your values are about it and especially when it comes to teenagers. Talk to them about what they think about their friends that are doing this sort of thing and what kinds of decisions they have made about those people and talk to them about their reputations. What does it mean to be engaged in a relationship with someone that is just straight up casual sex? I believe that it is really hard for girls to have casual sexual relationships because their hearts are so tender, especially when they are younger. And make sure your sons understand that, too. That girls tend to engage with sex and sexuality and with relationships in a different way than boys do. It is harder for girls to have casual sex than it is for boys.

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Amy Lang, MA

Sex Education Expert

Despite her 16 years of experience as a sexual health educator, Amy Lang found herself completely tongue-tied when her four year old son had "something very important" to tell her about his penis. Shocked by her discomfort, she realized if she was struggling, other parents must be too. Amy also holds an MA in Applied Behavioral Science and her focus was in adult education and group facilitation. She decided to combine her love of sex talking and her love of working with adults and started Birds + Bees + Kids in 2006.

Amy is a three time Mom’s Choice Award winner for her book, Birds + Bees + YOUR Kids - A Guide To Sharing Your Beliefs About Sexuality, Love and Relationships and DVD, Birds + Bees + Kids - The Basics. She is also the author of the book, Say What?! The Birds + Bees for Progressive Parents - What to Say and How to Say It!

She has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Seattle Magazine, Parent Map magazine and has contributed to a gazillion other publications. Sex advice guru Dan Savage says “Amy is a parent’s best friend-with-benefits when it comes to talking to kids about sex.” 

Though Birds + Bees + Kids, Amy helps parents of all beliefs have easy, open and effective conversations about sexuality, love and relationships with their kids. She offers talks, workshops, one-on-one consultations and live webcasts. Amy is also the co-founder of MamaCON - Inspiration and Tools for Modern Moms, a conference supporting the hard work of moms everywhere.

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