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Finding out your Kids Sexual Orientation

Based on the gender someone is attracted to defines their sexual orientation. Sexual orientations are generally described as:

Straight/Heterosexual -attracted to the opposite sex
Gay/Lesbian/Homosexual -attracted to the same sex
Bisexual -attracted to members of both sexes

Is Sexual Orientation Something We Choose?

Most kids don’t start to feel any sexual arousal until they reach adolescence. Puberty is responsible for the hormonal changes—these changes involve the mind as well as the body. Physical arousal can occur by simply thinking of someone attractive. Dealing with these new feelings can be traumatic; they can be confusing, intense and overwhelming. Part of this discovery includes recognizing their sexual orientation. Most teens today are aware of LGBT—however, being straight, gay, or bisexual is not a choice people make consciously. There are gay people throughout ethnic backgrounds, all social, economic groups and nationalities. Researchers now believe that biological and genetic factors may be responsible to a certain degree.

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